Shame is the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper or ridiculous. Shame is an intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed. Shame has everything to do with there is something wrong with me. There is something that is not ok with me. I am bad. I am bad and so I don’t deserve love and belonging.
Read MoreAt its core, perfectionism is striving to attain unrealistic standards based on a sense of self-worth that hinges on the expectations of others. Perfectionism is ultimately rooted in fear. Fear of rejection, fear of being an imposter, fear of getting it wrong, fear of someone seeing the real you, fear of being judged, fear of not knowing the answer, fear of failing, fear of effort, fear of it being too hard or too much. While the connection between perfectionism and anxiety is complex, perfectionism is often a sign of an underlying anxiety issue.
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